My beautiful wife, Olubukola, wrote a beautiful piece earlier today about me. I feel so proud reading it, and most importantly, more determined to finish strong, and to finish well. Let me let you read her pen.
What is in a name? This is a question some ask, sometimes with disdain, it is why they probably take for granted what they call others. Oh, but a name is key to who you are. It’s why we are even guaranteed new names when we cross over into eternity. Even Kunta Kinte knew this and fought so hard to keep his name till he got broken to accept ‘Toby’.
As my husband celebrates a milestone today, I will share some, just a few, of the names I call him…
This was the first name I got to know him as. Even before realizing he was OAU, Ile-Ife’s CASOR’s PastorTea. It was with this name I found a friend and then a best friend. It was with this name I found love, true and real. It was with this name I made one of life's most important decisions - to partner with another for the rest of my life. I must have called him this for about 2years after meeting him, before the next phase of our friendship. I still use it though, when I refer to him and yes when I have to discuss something serious…lol
Interestingly enough I can't quite remember how we got started on this name but it has stuck. Stuck so much that even in the midst of other people, I utter it without realizing it's not his first name. And that there may just be others present whose beloved call them that as well. But how easy it is to call him this, he has one of the sweetest hearts I know. Taking well after the one who first loved me and gave His life for me. O yes, this Sweet Heart of mine lays his 'life' for me too. Well he always tries to. He considers me and the children first all the time. And when I consider a colour to depict his heart, gold comes to mind and very easily too.
Ok so I’ve been privileged to share godly perspectives on marriage with intending couples, and one thing I keep bringing their attention to is the need to see that one as a partner in & for life. When you have tasted something great, being a witness or evangelist of that truth is easy. I have being blessed with an amazing partnership with my husband. Together we are a team. With God, we take on life with grace, and purpose with deliberateness. All the time we tackle issues and handle projects, back to back and side by side. My husband is indeed my partner in fulfilling purpose. He’s not intimidated to see me fly and will always be the one to challenge me and cheer me on. He’s aware of where I fall short (o yes the many gaps) but will always use wisdom, love and gentleness to support me. And again with ease I call him this.
This one actually makes me laugh. One, it's the local & traditional way we refer to folks here in Nigeria and it may seem strange that I would ever use it for him. But some names come so naturally. Many times uttered before one even thinks deep. But anyone who knows how my husband is with his Feyi, his best buddy, cannot agree any less. Even Feyi's teacher had to mention recently that he loves his dad. And sure their love is for real and here to stay. It's wonderful to know that Feyi's siblings aren't quite perturbed about it though. My husband has shown them as much love, care and friendship that has set them comfortable enough to enjoy the joys of Feyi and Baba Feyi's love. He's an amazing father. He’s their first role model and they cherish his presence. This is obvious by the way they shout with excitement whenever he returns home, and the way they cry when he's off for a trip...mmmmhhh....Baba Feyi.
LOL, Yes indeed. I also join the many who call him this. They are not the only ones who have enjoyed the ministry of an outstanding vessel of God. I have learnt the deep meaning of pastoring, deep yet simple. A shepherd. In my life my husband is the No1 Pastor. No minister comes before, with no intention to despise others I know of course. But it’s an honor that my husband is PastorTea. There’s a tone I call it with though, especially when I want to tease him….PaaasstorTea, stressing the T there. Feel free to ask me to pronounce this when next we see, but this offer lasts just 7 days from this post…lol. But truly PastorTea is a leader, and shepherd. In our home, he is prophet and priest. One special privilege I have with him on this is sharing the learnings God pours out to us. He learns something at the Feet of Grace Himself and before another hears, he teaches me. He doesn’t just preach what He learns though. He exemplifies it. To top it up, he remains teachable despite. When I learn as well, he’s open to hear from me. And when I have reservations about something he’s into, he listens. PastorTea!!
Many strive for places of honor. Many are ambitious about opportunities, which in itself isn’t bad, but can be at the expense of others… but my husband has been of the few who are not just into being made Kings but are actually King Makers. Interestingly enough, some of us are yet to learn that King Makers don’t necessarily or ever take the lime light, but are always strong influencers. I have seen and heard of the many my husband has been used by God to help usher into positions of opportunities and blessings. If he believes in your potential or capacity, he will push for you. Not with aggression or violence, but with the grace bestowed upon him. It’s easy for many to wander, “but we know you can be this too like others we knew you with”, but in my heart I smile and sigh, because I understand the ministry of King Makers. They are positioned to make kings, to build leaders, to influence causes, especially those that bring glory to God. I call my husband, Maker of Kings….
Temitope, Sweetheart mi, my Purpose Partner, Baba Feyi aka Best Buddy, PastorTea of God, King Maker, King of my castle….I celebrate you. As you step gracefully and gallantly into this decade of reigning, may this mark a season of exploits for you. May your heart continue to love and fear God. May your understanding of your maker never grow stale, may His anointing on you remain fresh. May you remain a light in our generation that reflects God’s true light. May He prosper the works of your hands and grant you favour. May Kings come to your rising. May you fulfill purpose. With long life He will satisfy you and grant you His salvation. Happy 40th Birthday my Darling!!